This was a productive day. Last night my granddaughter Quincy came over to spend the night and today. We mostly just watched TV and worked on the computer last night...and discussed what we wanted to do in the morning. Today we got started pretty early (we were going by 7:30) in the "studio". We are both members of an online art community called Paper Traders, and we were doing some of the group projects. Today we worked on the Encaustic Beeswax ATC swap. We had a ball, made a mess, and Finished our cards! Then Quincy finished up her Fashionista canvases while I did the scanning so we could get them uploaded. Hers are on her blog already but I still have some finishing touches I want to do on mine so they are not scanned yet. It was a good day because we got a lot done, but mostly because we enjoy being together so much.
I think there is often a special relationship between grandmothers and granddaughters. Being a generation removed can give a grandmother a more objective view of all the little annoyances that drive mothers crazy. My mother used to have such a good relationship with my kids. I didn't understand it then, but I do now.
I know when my kids were growing up it sometimes sorely tried my patience to let them "find" themselves. You want so much for your children to succeed, for them to not be hurt, to not fail, to have friends, and of course, to not embarrass you, that sometimes you try too hard. You hover, and advise, and caution, and criticize. And you think you are doing it all in their best interest. You try to be their friend and sometimes it feels like you are worst enemies. Looking back I can honestly say that sometimes it really was that worry that they might do something unacceptable or embarrassing that motivated my actions even if I didn't recognize it at the time. Sometimes we are just too close to the situation and it does become about us.
But a grandmother can see past it all. Raising that child is not your responsibility so you are free to just love them however they are. And I do love my grandkids. They are the light of my life. They add a richness that I could never have imagined. I love spending time with them, especially one on one, and just doing mundane things. Sometimes just sitting around watching a movie together is enough to fill my heart with joy. Having a shared interest gives Quincy and I not only something mutual to talk about, but being able to actually do something together that we both enjoy was just an added bonus today. Thanks Quincy for coming to spend a day with Gma. It was great fun!